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I miss home : The unsaid truth of students living abroad

Shivani Pandey Kathmandu वैशाख २०, २०७८       

I miss home : The unsaid truth of students living abroad

'Oh, look - it’s raining just like back in Nepal', I had wondered in quite a few instances during my academic years abroad, away from Nepal. Here, I believe it is just not me, wondering how or what I would have been doing at the moment if I was back home. Nostalgic memories often drive homesickness, leading to complexities in adjusting to the environment is a true event that most Nepalese living abroad face. Although most teenagers and adults in Nepal enjoy surfing through the social media feeds, seeing the lives of their friends and families in new cities, living a new life, they fail to notice the struggle and challenges of living in a foreign land and adapting to the foreign culture.

My struggles as a student in a foreign land resemble the struggle of quite a few cohorts that have been driven by their aim, ambition, or even social and family groups to live as an alien in land’s unknown. Apart from being homesick, struggles like culture shock and being alienated in a new environment can often drive anxiety, depression, and even ending up to sleepless nights. While most students realize this as a Jet Lag, truly, none normally admit their emotional stage of being away from the embrace of their homeland.

 COVID-19, especially, caused a riot. Colleagues and friends around me were driven by rage and an imbalance between work-life, especially, with the scarcity of income and health risks. Despite having friends around, the isolation period drove to a worrying stage about one’s own health, as well as, the well-being of their family. During this period, I realized the very financial system of Nepal to be faulty. With rising cases of COVID-19 in Nepal, it was a challenge to return.

While staying abroad itself had rising costs, families were restricted by many policies and regulations to send money to their children for their general expenses. Although living abroad has many perks of providing new exposure and experiences, there stands no purpose of the experience without having financial support. Questions that surround one’s mind are, 'Shall I save for my Tuitions ?', or 'Shall I spend on new experiences ?' So, why come back to Nepal ? After experiencing the struggles of living abroad; financially, emotionally, and even physically, weighs the benefits of staying back in Nepal. More than such, I believe, we are driven by the ‘home food’ and the very luxurious life set in Nepal without struggles. In most cases, like myself, we see opportunities that can be taken back to Nepal, benefitting monetarily and contributing to the economy of Nepal.

While Nepal has provided many new offerings, in terms of jobs and education, the social norms and peers opinions are often considered by family members. So, I question the system and the culture that has formed, driving oneself and one’s family to earn and learn abroad. Is the struggle of living abroad worth leaving the luxuriousness of home-cooked meals and stress-free life ? What shall the government and the system provide to change the social norms of driving students to live and learn abroad ?

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